Pretty Wicked Moms - When Did You Feel Judged As A Mom?

I always thought that if I made it through middle school and high school relatively unscathed, then I made it through the hardest part of growing up as a girl.  Little did I know just how wrong I was.  Middle school girls have nothing on mommies. 

With the creation of blogs, Pinterest, and Twitter, it's easy to feel judged sometimes.  But that is still nothing compared to be judged by moms siting right in front of you.  When Emmy was little, I decided to try out a mommy/kid play date group.  None of my family or friends had kids and I was desperate for some adult interaction. 

I found one online and was so excited when I signed up for our first play date.  A woman who lived in the town next to me was hosting.  I daydreamed of Emmy playing with other kids, tiring her out for bedtime, and me meeting some brand new best friends.  After all, weren't we all just moms looking for a fun way to spend the afternoon?

The day of our play date came, and I dressed Emmy and I in jeans and t-shirts, grabbed my diaper bag, and headed out the door.  Unfortunately I got a little lost, and so I was about 10 minutes late.  Had I known what would happen, I should have just cut my losses and headed home.

The host opened the door to greet me and the first thing out of her mouth was that they didn't think I was coming since I was so late {it was 10 minutes people!}  When I stepped into the playroom, I knew I was out of my league.  Every mom there had on designer jeans and flats, and fancy tops that probably cost more than my electric bill.  Their hair and make-0up were done impeccably.  Now, I definitely wasn't dressed like a hot mess, but I was no where near as groomed as these girls were. 

I set Emmy down to play with the kids and attempted some small talk.  Obviously, everyone was talking about their kids {is there a better ice breaker?} Each of the moms were talking about all the activities they had to take their kids to each day: swimming lessons, music lessons, gym classes, some even in foreign language classes.  You would not believe the shocked looks on their faces when I said Emmy just stayed home with me all day {she was just over a year at this point}.  Apparently I was already stunting my kid's chances of getting into a good college before the age of two.  Of course all of these moms had their kids potty trained before they were two, and no one would dare put anything that wasn't organic into their mouths. 

With each new topic brought up, I felt more and more like a failure.  It didn't help that all of the kids seemed to be sitting nicely, playing and sharing with each other, while Emmy was more of a running around free spirit.  I'm pretty sure my face was beet red the entire time I was there.

I pretended to get a text and excused Emmy and myself to the host.  We had only been there about an hour, but I had had more than enough.  None of the other moms even said goodbye to me and I never went to another meet-up again.

I have never felt so mortified and judged as a mom.  I'm sure that's the same way a lot of the moms in Lifetime's brand-new series Pretty Wicked Moms feel all the time!  Birthday parties, working vs stay at home moms, feeding and sleeping habits, moms judge each other on just about everything.  And these ladies are no different!  Apparently it's not good enough to be the best mom you can be.  You have to be the best mom everyone else thinks you should be!

Tune in to watch parenting like you've never seen before with the first episode of Pretty Wicked Moms on Tuesday, June 4, at 10:00 pm ET/PT on Lifetime.


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